tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post7717017253827079548..comments2023-04-08T05:24:37.929-04:00Comments on Wife of Type 1 Diabetic: More on what the hell am I doing . . .Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-71492159953820353492011-07-19T08:05:44.122-04:002011-07-19T08:05:44.122-04:00Anonymou(S),
Thank you, and glad to know that at ...Anonymou(S),<br /><br />Thank you, and glad to know that at least for now, life is better for you lately. I'm still treading water. <br /><br />Also happy to know you're still checking in. Take care.<br /><br />LillyLillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00850646712565307929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-20879900384418314682011-07-18T23:04:17.411-04:002011-07-18T23:04:17.411-04:00Sweet Lilly,
This post has saddened me so much. ...Sweet Lilly,<br /><br />This post has saddened me so much. I've been thinking about it for weeks. I hate these moments with a DH. As you can imagine, I've been there. However, not in your shoes. <br /><br />Life has been better in my shoes lately. Time will tell how long this will last. <br /><br />I miss you. Yet, I do check in often.<br /><br />Anonymou(S) WifeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-52820165483281158022011-07-14T16:53:17.067-04:002011-07-14T16:53:17.067-04:00Thank you for all your comments. I should probabl...Thank you for all your comments. I should probably separate all these out into a separate post, but just don't have the energy right now. Your support means much! As always, there are no easy answers. TX DW, you say that your husband is like an old man in many ways. I just had a conversation with my son this past week, in which I told him that hubby was more like a man in his 70's, instead of his 50's. I hate what diabetes has done to both of us.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00850646712565307929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-33724800998667108492011-07-14T01:08:19.542-04:002011-07-14T01:08:19.542-04:00New to your blog...love your comments...I have bee...New to your blog...love your comments...I have been through the 4 a.m. incidents to many times to remember...but what I hate more is the verbal abuse rendered to me when I say the least little thing he disagrees with and that is ususally whatever I say these days...he starts in on me and says awful things....I see mine DH is like a lot of yours...so I am not alone in this painful abuse...never physical but the verbal can be as damaging...I cry a lot these days... seems the older we get the more it happens...he is like a OLD man on so many things...I can hardly bear it some days...he works from home and I just want to run away!!! Please, everyone, keep posting your stories... they help me and I know that I am not alone... this disease is horrible in so many hidden ways...why is this not more discussed...I know I am not the easiest person to live with but I really don't think I deserve this treatment so much...thanks again for your blogs..they help me survive day to day...blessing to all of your...TX DWAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-83076393552980625442011-07-09T04:44:57.692-04:002011-07-09T04:44:57.692-04:00Lilly, you are an incredibly strong woman to be de...Lilly, you are an incredibly strong woman to be dealing with this. My ex was like your DH - everything was always my fault - only his problem was that he was (and still is) a narcissist - and there is no way you can get them to go to a counselor because they are sure that nothing is wrong with them. I used to ask him to go to a marriage counselor with me and his reply was, "You go ahead and go if you want. You're the one with the problem anyway." <br /><br />My current DH - basically a very kind and decent man - gets weird when he is driving. On the rare occasions when I drive (like when he had a minor medical procedure under sedation and was not allowed to drive) he screamed every inch of the way home about every little thing I did and I was a nervous wreck. I pointed out that as I am older than he is, I've been driving longer, and have NEVER had either an accident or a ticket for my driving, so I DO know what I'm doing behind the wheel, and being screamed at detracts from my concentration. It didn't help. He kept right on fussing until we reached our driveway. I'm fine when I drive by myself, but I won't drive him anywhere.<br /><br />If you moved into the RV, that just might get your hubby's attention. And if he gives you grief about it, THEN you relocate BOTH yourself and the RV. See how he handles that.<br /><br />Nobody deserves to live with abuse. Been there, done that, and there wasn't anything in the marriage vows that said we had to put up with it. <br /><br />Take care of yourself, girlfriend. Nobody else is going to do it for you.SUGAR AIN'T SWEEThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05358430310237580071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-55892747995904501232011-07-04T17:49:34.768-04:002011-07-04T17:49:34.768-04:00Lilly,
you are smart, capable woman
you are being ...Lilly,<br />you are smart, capable woman<br />you are being pulled impossibly<br />there is no right or wrong answer<br />and maybe nothing you do is as permanent as it may feel right now<br /><br />follow your instinct<br />take one day at a time<br />and more than anything?<br />take care of yourself<br /><br />I am sorry you are going through this<br />something will change<br />whether by your hand or his<br />and it will get betterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-3488182516396742832011-06-25T22:47:34.253-04:002011-06-25T22:47:34.253-04:00Yes, I thought about moving to the RV after I post...Yes, I thought about moving to the RV after I posted. He never follows me when he's like this, so it might work, even if it is late at night. All I need to do is walk out the door and go to the camper. Hmmm . . . We were finally able to talk about this tonight. He now knows how close I've come to leaving, and why. Will probably write a post about it tomorrow. Too tired right now!Thank you for giving me hope that the outbursts may lessen over time.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00850646712565307929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-79341263232527034802011-06-25T20:58:42.657-04:002011-06-25T20:58:42.657-04:00I hate that you are going through this. I hung in...I hate that you are going through this. I hung in there - it lasted for 3 years. We haven't had these outbursts in about 2 years. OK, once in awhile....but not every single day like we used to. So I'm wondering if it's a "Phase" in the disease? I love the RV idea! Just drive off, take time off, come back when you are ready. But here's another option. Move into the RV and don't drive off. Be his neighbor until he can control the outbursts. Just a thought. :o)Diabeteswifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12766498325089988838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8732590261022072879.post-5254378218857443372011-06-25T08:53:18.847-04:002011-06-25T08:53:18.847-04:00I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. On...I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. On a side note, Vince cringes when I brake to hard in the car too. Darn neuropathy. Is his pain causing the emotional outbursts? If he has pain like Vince, it is possible....maybe it's not a bad idea to use your family members house as a get away when you need it. Take care xoxoSandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07361096702591999799noreply@blogger.com