Thank you for the encouragement. I really wish it was that "simple" sometimes. As it is, my husband is already on antidepressants. They seemed to work like a magic bullet for awhile, and then didn't work anymore. His doctor increased the dosage, and now he seems to be worse! Will be going to see the person who prescribed these before too long. Hopefully, she has a better answer.
As for retirement, he has been retired for the past several years because of health complications. This probably does not help his depression, as he was forced into retirement at a young age, and most of his friends are still working.
What do I want out of this relationship called marriage? At least some occasional shared joy with the man I married . . . I often wonder where he went. Never thought that I could be this lonely while married. I would like him back. Am I asking for too much?
However, thanks for the "rational" comment! Sometimes, I really need to hear that! :-)